Have you seen this? I heard about it from Maristar. Can you imagine how hard it would be for most of us to go even one day without complaining or criticizing or whining or gossiping?
I see that Christine used an example of stating your feelings which is similar to Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication model - they call it "giraffe" talk. In "giraffe" we use this guide - Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests. When you start using it, it sounds very stilted and strange. Here's an example of the old method of communication, "You always leave stuff all over your floor, it's a pigsty, go clean your room or you won't get on the computer today." (Mmmhmm, sounds like me!) Here's the alternative, "When I see those toys on your floor, I feel irritated because I have a need for order. Would you be willing to put your toys away before bedtime tonight?" Of course, to those of us who tend to be controlling (sheepish grin) and want others (especially kids) to just do what we demand, the possibility and reality of hearing a "no" is hard to deal with!
Anyway, I have decided to take on the challenge. I start today. It's not going to be easy but that's what makes it worth doing.